Lessons
learnt in Love
I have learnt that love is not the answer to all. Romantic love is not perfect. It comes with its pros and cons. It’s beautiful no doubt, but it remains our finest teacher. In all honesty, your partners teach you what you need to know the most. Your partners are what you are within. They are your own learning experience. I have learnt through the hard way that it’s not about the partner it’s about my experience.
We keep repeating what we know, within. We keep repeating our stories. Our partners just remind us, what we actually know from within but conveniently forget. We often say,’ love hurt me each time.’ Love does not hurt. It makes you feel good. The patterns within you hurt. Your partner comes to reveal them. The answer is always to look within.
I have learnt and am learning, that the more comfortable I am with myself, I am comfortable with my partner. The more I respect my boundaries, the more I am respected. The more I realize that nothing is perfect, the easier relationships are.
Love is truly imperfect. It teaches us what we need to learn and become finally the person we are meant to be!
As, I end this piece, I end with what Mystic poet Khalil Gibran talked about love, it still stands true today.
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
I have learnt that love is not the answer to all. Romantic love is not perfect. It comes with its pros and cons. It’s beautiful no doubt, but it remains our finest teacher. In all honesty, your partners teach you what you need to know the most. Your partners are what you are within. They are your own learning experience. I have learnt through the hard way that it’s not about the partner it’s about my experience.
We keep repeating what we know, within. We keep repeating our stories. Our partners just remind us, what we actually know from within but conveniently forget. We often say,’ love hurt me each time.’ Love does not hurt. It makes you feel good. The patterns within you hurt. Your partner comes to reveal them. The answer is always to look within.
I have learnt and am learning, that the more comfortable I am with myself, I am comfortable with my partner. The more I respect my boundaries, the more I am respected. The more I realize that nothing is perfect, the easier relationships are.
Love is truly imperfect. It teaches us what we need to learn and become finally the person we are meant to be!
As, I end this piece, I end with what Mystic poet Khalil Gibran talked about love, it still stands true today.
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
(EXTRACTS FROM AN AUTHOR’S DESK)
